Lundy Bancroft has over thirty years’ experience specializing in interventions for abusive men and their families. He has authored several books, including the world’s best-seller on domestic violence, “Why Does He Do That?”

In Custody: A Carrie Green Novel

A Mother and Daughter Vanish in the Midst of a Bitter Custody Battle

Carrie Green, newly out of community college, works as a low-paid intern for a small newspaper. A local divorced mother and her daughter don’t come home one day, and the missing girl’s father insists to police that his child has been stolen by his ex. Carrie’s editor assumes that the story will turn out to be nothing – as happens with most disappearances – so he figures he’ll stick his intern with it.

Instead, the case becomes the biggest local event in decades. To begin with, police find oddly contradictory evidence; clear signs that the missing duo left voluntarily clash powerfully with indications that they’ve been kidnapped. Next, the missing girl keeps appearing, then slipping away again before police can help her. Or is it really her at all? And where’s her mom?

Everything Carrie has always believed about the custody courts is gradually turned upside down, as she finds more and more evidence that courts are now primarily siding with abusive fathers – and against their victims and children.

Facing mounting indications that the daughter is in danger, Carrie decides to take big risks — and ropes her boyfriend into joining her – to try to find out what has happened before it’s too late.

Lundy Bancroft - In Custody: A Carrie Green Novel


The Joyous Recovery

A New Approach to Emotional Healing and Wellness

The Joyous Recovery is a path back to yourself. In this inspiring new book, Lundy Bancroft reveals where healing comes from — including crucial pieces that current approaches to recovery are completely missing. You’ll learn:

* Why “self-help” so often fails, including why fighting to improve your attitude and outlook doesn’t work
* Why healing doesn’t need to be drudgery, and instead can be a joyful process with rapid benefits
* How to harness the cyclical nature of healing to rocket your progress forward
* How to understand and use structured support, the game-changer in emotional healing
* How to tap into the power of your emotional immune system — your body’s natural plan to keep you psychologically well

You’ll also be introduced to the exciting power of the Peak Living Network, a peer support system that is free of charge and open to all.

The Joyous Recovery is an approach to emotional healing unlike anything you’ve encountered before. And it works.



Daily Wisdom for Why Does He Do That?

Encouragement for Women Involved with Angry and Controlling Men

Support. Understanding. Clarity. A direction for the future.

Lundy’s follow-up to Why Does He Do That? offers women daily guidance and inspiration for meeting the challenges of living with a controlling partner. In short, compassionate pieces that take about ten minutes to read, Lundy helps the reader navigate the confusion, emotional wounding, and intimidation that angry and controlling men cause.

The book cycles through the following seven topics, one reading per week:

* How to keep your head clear from your partner’s twisted thinking

* Forming the best possible friendship with yourself

* Keeping yourself in one piece today so you can be strong for tomorrow

* Developing an outlook that keeps you on track even as he tries to derail you

* Improving your relationships with all of the people you care about

* Being fully present for your children

* Healing your emotional wounds and regaining your power

Daily Wisdom For ‘Why Does He Do That?” is for every woman who is looking for help with her relationship. You do not need to have read any of Lundy’s previous books, including Why Does He Do That? to understand and draw strength from Daily Wisdom. .



Why Does He Do That?

Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

Nationwide bestseller with over 400,000 copies in print.

Has your partner changed dramatically from the man you originally got involved with? Do you struggle with trying to understand what is bothering him and how to keep him from exploding? Do you feel like you’re always messing things up in his eyes, and you can’t figure out how to get it right?

Why Does He Do That? has become the go-to book for women who have partners who are angry, controlling, or unfaithful. It answers the 20 questions that women most ask about their partners’ behavior.

Here are just a few:

* “Why did he used to think I was so great and now he often seems to think I’m terrible?”

* “Why does he make everything he does my fault?”

* “Why does he want to have sex after being terrible to me?”

* “Is he going to escalate to physical violence?”

* “How come everybody else seems to think he’s so perfect?”

* “What can I do to get him to change how he treats me?”

This book will help you to sort out whether your partner’s behavior is just “normal relationship stuff” or whether he is trying to control you. And if he is controlling, Lundy will guide you in how to keep yourself safe and sort out the way forward for your life.

(See also the companion volume, Daily Wisdom for “Why Does He Do That?”, which can be purchased above.)



The Batterer as Parent

Addressing the Impact of Domestic Violence on Family Dynamics

The Batterer as Parent takes the reader inside of homes affected by domestic violence, imparting an understanding of the atmosphere that battering men create for the children who live with them. Bancroft and Silverman show how partner abuse affects each relationship in a family, and explain how emotional recovery is inextricably linked to the healing and empowerment of the mothers. The authors cover the important but often-overlooked area of the post-separation parenting behaviors of men who batter, including their use of custody litigation as a tool of abuse. Readers also are guided in evaluating change in the parenting of men who batter, assessing risk to children from unsupervised visitation, and supporting the emotional recovery of children. Although the book is written primarily for professionals, its accessible style makes it engaging and useful for abused mothers and anyone else wishing to assist children exposed to battering.

Excellent. I’ve been waiting for this book. It is a crisp, cogent, comprehensive exegesis on batterers, their parenting styles, their custody litigation practices, and the adverse impact of their violence on battered mothers and their children. A must-read for attorneys, advocates, custody evaluators, judges, and batterer intervention service providers.

– Barbara Hart, J.D., Legal Director, Battered Women’s Justice Project/Civil Division



Should I Stay or Should I Go?

A Guide to Knowing If Your Relationship Can – and Should – Be Saved

Are you tired of that aching feeling in your heart? Do you feel like you’re having to work every day to earn your partner’s love? Has your partner cheated on you? This book guides women in putting their finger on exactly what has gone wrong in their relationships, and knowing what decisive action to take now. Find out whether your relationship can be repaired, and how to fix it. And if it’s beyond repair – we’ll tell you how to know when it’s time to end it – we will help you move through your disappointment and anger to build a new life that is vibrant and satisfying, where you are in charge of what happens. Here’s what we cover:

    1. How to tell the root cause of why your partner isn’t giving you the love you deserve. Is it immaturity? Fear of commitment? Addiction? Mental health problems? Abusiveness? You’ll learn how to test for each of these, and what it means if the answer is yes.
    2. How to get your partner to listen to you and understand that he has to work on himself and make changes.
    3. How to point him toward the right kind of help – and how to find out if he’s serious about growing up and changing or not.
    4. How to get yourself stronger and happier, so that you can face up to the hard challenge of ending your relationship if it turns out you need to. And if your partner does manage to grow in the ways you need him to, you’ll still benefit from learning how to keep yourself on solid ground emotionally, so that you don’t rise and fall with the ups and downs of your relationship.
    5. If you have to move on, you’ll learn how to choose a partner next time who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated, won’t cheat on you, and will make you a priority.

This is the book women have been waiting for. It offers information, insights, and a clear plan of action. Lundy Bancroft, the country’s best-known author on abusive relationships, teams up with women’s advocate and workshop leader JAC Patrissi to bring you this hopeful and empowering guidebook.



When Dad Hurts Mom

Helping Your Children Heal the Wounds of Witnessing Abuse

Can my partner abuse me and still be a good parent? Should I stay with my partner for my children’s sake? How should I talk to my children about the abuse and help them heal? Am I a bad mother? Mothers in physically or emotionally abusive relationships ask themselves these questions every day. Here, a counselor reveals how abusers interact with and manipulate children-and how mothers can help their children recover from the trauma of witnessing abuse. This book, the first ever of its kind, shows mothers how to:

      1. Protect children and help them heal emotionally
      2. Provide love, support, and positive role models, even in the midst of abuse
      3. Increase their chances of winning custody
      4. Help their kids feel good about themselves

The perfect, long-awaited guide for mothers who have been abused… also essential reading for every social worker, custody evaluator, guardian ad litem, custody attorney, child protection worker and judge.

– Joan Zorza, Esquire, Editor, Domestic Violence Report