RESOURCES FOR ABUSED WOMEN, THEIR CHILDREN, AND OTHERS
The books, videos, websites, and organizations listed on these pages offer support, guidance, and inspiration to abused women. There is also wonderful information in these resources for friends and family wishing to assist a woman who is being mistreated in a relationship, and for community activists seeking to confront the wider social problem of abuse and violence. Although most of these resources refer to “domestic violence” or “battering,” they are almost all equally relevant to women who have experienced verbal, economic, or sexual coercion.
HOTLINES, WEBSITES, AND BOOKS ON ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS
National Domestic Violence Hotline for the United States and Canada: 1 (800) 799-SAFE
Call this number to receive a referral to the closest hotline for abused women in your area. The use of this number is not restricted to women who have experienced physical violence: Women and teens are welcome to call with any issue regarding verbal abuse or control in a relationship, or just because something is happening in their relationship that is making them uncomfortable.
Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network Hotline (RAINN): 1 (800) 656-4673, or online hotline at online.rainn.org
Call this number if you have been sexually assaulted or sexually abused by your partner or ex-partner (or by anyone else), and you will be connected immediately to the sexual assault hotline closest to you. Use the online hotline for confidential chat with a trained support specialist 24/7.
Visit the Help Guide for an unusually extensive and helpful set of guidelines, resources, and checklists, and other helpful information for women involved with abusive or controlling men. This website is a great place to start if you are looking to learn more about ways of dealing with your situation.
The book that answers the 20 questions that women most commonly ask about controlling or abusive relationship partners, including why he treats other people so much better than he treats you, how he came to be the way he is, why his good periods don’t last, and how to tell if he is really going to change or not.
This is a supportive, clear, and extremely practical book on how to understand if your partner is abusive, and what steps to take to get your life back under your own control. Everything is here, from how to stop blaming yourself to how to choose a good counselor or lawyer. I give this book my highest recommendation.
This is a powerful book for women who are seeking guidance on how to cope with a controlling partner and how to move towards freedom and recovery. It is practical, down to earth, and accurate, and covers in detail a wide range of issues that women face. A wonderful resource.
Despite the title, this book is equally valuable for women who are still involved with an angry or controlling partner and for those who have left. This is a wonderful, warm, compassionate book by authors that deeply understand both emotional and physical abuse.
Evans’ book takes the reader through the details of verbally abusive tactics in relationships, and how to understand their effects on you. She offers terrific insight and practical advice. (The book contains a couple of the common misconceptions about the psychology of abusers, but this is a very minor drawback compared to its many strengths.)
This booklet is short and simple, with accurate information and good advice. This is a great resource for a woman who does not have the time or energy for the longer books listed above, or who wants to have quick inspiration handy.
A valuable expose of abuse among the wealthy, with important guidance for abused women. Weitzman’s descriptions of abusive men are accurate and helpful (though a couple of the myths slip in). I recommend this book highly.
ADDITIONAL RESOURCE PAGES ON A WIDE VARIETY OF SUBJECTS
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For Women Facing Other Kinds of Abuse (in nursing homes and other care facilities, as caretakers themselves, or in workplaces)