When Dad Hurts Mom: Helping Your Children Heal the Wounds of Witnessing Abuse
by Lundy Bancroft (Berkley Books)

This is a parenting guide for women who are with, or have left, and abusive partner. It explains how to recognize the emotional wounds your children may be carrying from being exposed to the abuser’s behavior, and how you can best help them to recover. It offers concrete guidelines on how to keep a strong relationship with your kids so that the abuser can’t turn them against you. If you’re still unsure of how to handle such a situation it might be helpful to talk to professionals similar to Eatons Solicitors to understand your legal options moving forward. It’s important to look into that to make sure that your children are coping well with the experiences that they may have had. Once that is sorted, with the help of a professional, it’s important that children and their mother can rekindle their relationship to make sure they can move forward together. Start doing fun activities together, such as shopping or creating some lovely desserts with an American waffle maker. Baking is usually a stress-free activity, so that might be fun. By working together regularly, this relationship should strengthen and the child should feel a lot more comfortable and safe around their parent.

Childhood Experiences of Domestic Violence
by Caroline McGee (Jessica Kingsley)

Although this is a professional book, it is very readable and compassionate. McGee understands the challenges an abused mother faces. Told largely in the words of mothers and children themselves, this is the single best introduction I have found to the experiences of children exposed to an abusive man, with extensive guidance for how to effectively assist them to safety and recovery.

The Batterer As Parent: Addressing The Impact of Domestic Violence On Family Dynamics
by Lundy Bancroft and Jay Silverman (Sage Publications)

Although this professional book focuses on physically abusive men, the great majority of what we cover applies to verbally abusive and controlling men as well. We explain how an abusive man can affect the relationships between a mother and her children and between siblings, and how abusers may try to continue their control through the children post-separation. Abused mothers, including those involved in the family court system, report finding this book both validating and helpful.

Talking About Domestic Abuse: A Photo Activity Book to Develop Communication Between Mothers and Young People
by Cathy Humphreys, Ravi Thiara, Agnes Skamballis, Audrey Mullender, and June Freeman (Jessica Kingsley Publishers)

This book is for children roughly nine years older and up. It contains activities for mothers and children to do together to help process the experience of a man’s violence in the home. This workbook helps promote bonding between mothers and children and facilitates healing.

Talking to My Mum: A Picture Workbook for Workers, Mothers and Children Affected by Domestic Abuse
by Cathy Humphreys, Ravi Thiara, Agnes Skamballis, and Audrey Mullender (Jessic Kingsley Publishers)

Similar to the “Talking About Domestic Abuse” book, but this one is directed at younger children, particularly in the five-to-eight year old range. Many of the activities are appropriate for children even younger than five.

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