WHY I WROTE “IN CUSTODY”

NOTE: The first 30 pages of In Custody are now free for anyone to read. Go to the book’s website, InCustodyTheNovel.com, and click on “Read Chapters 1-5.”   I’ll give the short answer first. I wanted something we could hand to people who don’t get it. I wanted to be able to tell them that…

KIDS WHO SIDE WITH THE ABUSER, PART 1

Several weeks ago, I wrote a post about kids who see through the abuser. To my surprise, it was the most popular piece I’d put up in a long time; a lot of my readers are trying to see through kids’ eyes. How do young people form their understandings of what is happening when their…

TIME TO SPEAK BLUNTLY ABOUT THE FAMILY COURTS

   It’s time to say the obvious truth straight up. No pretty ribbons, no proving how “reasonable” I am by sugar-coating the harsh reality of what’s actually happening.      Here it is:  The family court system across the continent has become the moral equivalent of a slave trade. Mothers and children have no rights at…

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Ever Wonder Why Your Abusive Partner Hates You?

(This tirade is a little different from the more measured writing you may be accustomed to from me, so take  a deep breath. The piece is in two parts, both of which are below.)   Part 1 The abusive man learns early in life, from his surrounding society and beyond, that when he becomes an…