THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS TO KNOW ABOUT NARCISSISM

I’ve promised to write a second part to my post about the difference between narcissists and abusers. But I decided that first I need to explain a number of key concepts regarding severe self-centeredness, also called “narcissism” or “personality disorder.” So that’s what I’m exploring today. I’m not writing here about abusive men. I’m writing…

KIDS WHO SEE THROUGH THE ABUSER

Divorce professionals are fond of saying that children feel “caught in the middle.” But a lot of kids don’t feel that way at all. They see clearly where the abuse is coming from, and they recognize their dad or step-dad’s manipulations. They wish he would stop bullying Mom and stop bullying them. They wish he…

TIME TO SPEAK BLUNTLY ABOUT THE FAMILY COURTS

   It’s time to say the obvious truth straight up. No pretty ribbons, no proving how “reasonable” I am by sugar-coating the harsh reality of what’s actually happening.      Here it is:  The family court system across the continent has become the moral equivalent of a slave trade. Mothers and children have no rights at…

KEY SIGNS OF A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

KEY SIGNS OF A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP Over the years, many people have said to me, “Lists exist out there of warning signs of an abusive partner – which is good to have – but what are the signs of the opposite? How do I know when I’m in a healthy relationship?” Here are some ideas…

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Ever Wonder Why Your Abusive Partner Hates You?

(This tirade is a little different from the more measured writing you may be accustomed to from me, so take  a deep breath. The piece is in two parts, both of which are below.)   Part 1 The abusive man learns early in life, from his surrounding society and beyond, that when he becomes an…